Well, it’s a brand new year once again. Time for making those resolutions that may or may not last and yes, I am guilty of making a few myself and not sticking to them like I should. But what I want to write about today is a topic that has been on my mind for quite some time and wanted to put on here.
When a woman becomes a mom her list of priorities grows exponentially. We love being moms, it’s the best thing in the world to rock a sleeping baby, kiss a boo boo, share in the joys of a game that was won etc. Our responsibilities grow from having more laundry, more shopping, more appointments to remember, and making time for our spouse. But how many of you mom’s out there, add to that list, time for you? Yes, that’s what I said, time for YOU!! Both personally and professionally this is something I hear about on an almost daily basis. I hear that as women, the priority of making time for you is nonexistent. It might happen at some point. Or I hear that there is guilt associated with actually leaving the house to do something by yourself that doesn’t involve helping the family, like grocery shopping or buying the kids new shoes. (Granted personally speaking, going to the grocery store by myself is a treat sometimes!) I became slightly addicted to pedicures when I was pregnant with my second child. It was a welcome treat when it was ridiculously hot outside and I got a little pampering and not to mention pretty toes when the rest of me felt less than pretty. However, every single time I went, I felt guilty. WHY?!?! And I know I am not alone, as I hear the same thing over and over again from other women in the same boat.
Don’t get me wrong, the guilt was all ME! I am so very lucky to have a husband who wants me to get out the house and do things for myself. I hear it from other husbands as well; they want their wives to do things for themselves. However, as I type I have a gift certificate for a massage that is currently collecting dust (that I received from supportive husband) because I have been unable to justify the two hours I would be gone to pamper myself and instead fill up my time with the things that “have” to get done.
It all comes down to this ladies; we can’t take care of those we love, unless we put ourselves first. Our husbands want us to do these things. So I encourage you to make a resolution this year to do things for YOU! I hear so many women say they wish they could go to the gym, get a mani/pedi, have a girl’s night, roam around a book store for an hour, find a new hobby and the list goes on and on. As mom’s we are so good at scheduling everything sometimes down to the minute for everyone else. Therefore, I challenge and encourage you to schedule some time for yourself. Start out small, try once a month for an hour. Leave the house, the husband, and the kids and have some time for you. Leave the guilt at home. Enjoy yourself, as you deserve more than anyone in this world. Being a mom and wife is very hard and in order to do that job, you need to come first sometimes. It might be a little hard at first, but trust me; it will make all the difference in the world.
I would love to hear the things that you are doing for yourself, so don’t hesitate to comment on here, it might push another mom out the door for the time that she deserves. And husbands, leave your comments to, I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic! I think I might log off here and go make that appointment for the massage that is so long overdue! Happy New Year everyone, I truly hope it is a great year for you!
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