Did you read those words and think you were reading a foreign language? If, so, I think it might be a good idea to keep reading! Sorry for the lapse in posts here, been a little busy around here lately, no excuse, I know!
Anyway, I wanted to write a short something about spending some time with our significant others. Sounds easy enough right? Do something as a couple and enjoy each other’s company if even for a few hours? I wish it was that easy. For those of you with children and full time jobs, carving out that time for the ones we choose to be with can feel like an almost impossible task. Is it important for your relationship? ABSOLUTELY!!!!
We tend to take for granted those that are closest to us, mainly our spouses or significant others. It’s a pretty nice feeling to know they are always going to be there no matter what. However, I seem to be meeting with more and more couples and individuals who can’t really recall the last time quality time was spent with their spouse. And truthfully, it’s not just professionally I am speaking about personally as well. I remember taking a class in grad school and the professor taught several nights a week and was a mother to five children. She stated at one point that she and her husband made it a point to put the kids to bed at a decent time and they sat outside together and actually talked to each other. At the time, I was planning my wedding and I thought, well, that seems like a no brainer, of course my spouse will be very high on the priority list in my life. The reality though, is that it rarely happens that I even think to put him first. A lot of our quality time is spent on the couch watching TV. Sure we are together, but only in proximity some nights.
I wish I had the magic wand to say, ok, on the first Saturday of every month, take some time out for you and your loved one and it will magically happen. The errands will be done, the babysitter will magically appear and things will be wonderful. But sadly, that’s not the case. But the importance of finding that time is GREATLY needed in any relationship. Date nights don’t have to be extravagant, they can be as easy as turning off the TV and talking. Getting out of the house even for an hour or two and do something that you used to enjoy as a couple before children came along can make you feel so much better! I encourage at least starting thinking about this and to hopefully start “scheduling” some of that time with your spouse. The benefits really do show!!
