So here I am updating the “weekly” blog a month later…..whoops once again!! I think I need to be a better boss to myself these days! It’s been a pretty busy month for me and I am finally doing the catch up that is needed right now in many areas, including this blog. My family had to say good-bye to my grandmother this past month. She was an amazing woman and lived a very full life in her 91 years here with us. As with any death of a loved one, the memories are sure to come and I was no different and one memory that stands out is one that I have actually been meaning to bring up on here.
Shortly after my boyfriend proposed we went to go tell my grandma the news. And by shortly after, I mean that the ring was put on my finger about two hours prior to showing up at her house. Grandma was happy for us, but after her congratulations, she went on to say something to the tune of “I am happy for you all, but you really have no idea what you are getting into”. Really grandma, these are the words you are choosing for your newly engaged granddaughter? She went on to say how marriage is a lot of hard work and you just don’t realize it and the amount of work marriage takes until you are in the midst of married life. Granted her and grandpa were married 55 years, so she obviously knew what she was talking about.
At that time, I didn’t think much about it and enjoy retelling this story to cousins of who are at the age of getting married etc. But the more I think about it and the more I work with couples on a weekly basis, I begin to think about relationships and marriage in a new light. Does anyone actually view their relationship as “work”? Do you respond to things your boss requests of you differently than you would when your spouse requests something of you? Do you treat your spouse with the same respect you would give a co-worker or potential client? Our spouses or significant others are supposed to be a main focus in our life and a priority, however, as normal human beings, we can forget that and it gets easy to take that person for granted when everything else gets busy or stressful. Due to the world right now, a lot of people are not in a place that they can take their job for granted and will go the extra mile needed to maintain employment. But how many of us will go that extra mile if they feel that their relationship is on the line? Or do other things get in the way and the relationship, the thing that is probably more valuable than a job in the long run, gets put on the back burner? I know that my grandparents had their ups and downs, but the importance of family and their marriage was always a priority and I believe that to some extent, they viewed it as "work". I could go on and on and on regarding this topic, but just wanted to get my thoughts down and possibly give out some more food for thought. As always, I would love to hear comments, questions etc about this topic or anything else on here! I hope everyone is having a GREAT summer and staying cool!
